“The most powerful and destructive addiction is where ambivalence holds you hostage.” Bill Cottringer
I believe dealing with ambivalence is one of the keys to moving forward toward recovery. It may also be the primary emotion that keeps girls and women from venturing out of illness into health.
Like Bill Cottringer says, “ambivalence holds you hostage.” That is a powerful statement!
Webster Merriam defines ambivalence as:
1) simultaneous and contradictory attitudes or feelings (as attraction and repulsion) toward an object, person, or action
2) a : continual fluctuation (as between one thing and its opposite)
b : uncertainty as to which approach to follow
The antonym or opposite of ambivalence is certainty. My experience with someone in the early stages of recovery is she is anything but certain.
Since I have just begun really exploring this concept of ambivalence, I would love to hear from you. Do you think she is uncertain about whether she wants to recover or if she is not certain she truly can recover?
And are there other things she is uncertain or ambivalent about? Are there things you have done in recovery that have helped move you out of ambivalence and toward more certainty about getting well?
I would love to hear your thoughts on this and welcome your comments.
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