Yesterday I laid the foundation that it is very important to God that we know the difference between the truth and a lie. If we don’t the devil will attempt to deceive us…in any area of our life.
If you are a parent of a child with an eating disorder; knowing the truth will indeed set you free to be the parent your ill child needs you to be. Why? Because your child IS being deceived and you have to be the keeper of truth for him or her. And then you act upon that truth for the benefit and health of your child.
The ED wants your child to believe that she is not sick; that she is just fine. ED also wants you to believe that your child is fine, or this not eating stuff is just a phase or will get better on its own. When you see changes in your child that concern you…it is not an over-reaction to take her to the doctor or to another professional for an assessment.
If your child has a fever you go to the doctor. If all of a sudden he starts to struggle with reading; you might take him to the eye doctor or to an educational specialist to rule out learning issues.
The bottom line is you know when there are changes in your child’s attitude, behavior, emotion and body. You may not know it overnight, but you will at some point.
Your son or daughter may complain, get an attitude, say they hate you or threaten to not go to an appointment. She may even say she won’t eat or she’ll run away if you force her to go, etc.
This is not your child talking; it is the ED and even though ED wants you to believe you have no power and are helpless to get your child to an appointment or whatever; you are not. These are the lies ED wants parents to believe. He doesn’t just lie to your son or daughter. He lies to you too.
Hang onto what you know to be true. You know your child. You know the changes you have seen are real and not to be ignored. You know your child does not want to be ill or have an eating disorder. She wants to eat or she does not want to binge and purge. ED wants her to do those things.
This is only one way that the eating disorder lies to you and your child. We’ll talk about more tomorrow. Trust God that as you ask for wisdom about what to do, that He will show you. Then trust yourself that you can listen to God and you hear His voice and will act in the best interest of your child and your family.
5 “If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. 6 But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. 7 That man should not think he will receive anything from the Lord; 8 he is a double-minded man, unstable in all he does.”
“…and his sheep follow him because they know his voice.”
I need wisdom and Your Word says that when I ask for wisdom you will give it to me. Once I ask; give me the faith to believe the direction is from You and the courage to act on the direction You have given me. Show me the truth in every situation with my child and help us as a family defeat this enemy.